Let Me Be Myself
“Give Me Some Sunshine, Give Me Some Rain
Give Me Another Chance, I Wanna Grow up once again”
The day is not so far away when your child will say, Let me be myself.
Nowadays, parents are not only concerned but protective about a child, his living, education and survival for future etc.
An immediate question comes to my mind, do we really need our children to run the Rat Race?
It has become so important for parents that child should be ahead of someone and do better than somebody. They need to be top of everyone, not only in studies but in the extra curriculum. They should do studies, do the job, buy a house, never-ending list which is everything better than someone.
Why we are not teaching them to live beautifully and explore their own life. Running just little ahead of someone will not take them anywhere.
It is our privilege and blessings that bundle of joy has arrived in our life. If your mango plant needs 50 ltr water per day, it doesn’t mean that your rose plant needs the same amount of water. You need to figure out what kind of plant you are blessed with. Every child is unique.
If Sachin’s parents forced him to study and not play cricket? If Lata Mangeshkar’s Parents never allowed her to sing and focus on studies. We will not be blessed with superstar actor like Amitabh Bachchan, sportsman’s like Marry Kom , Saina Nehwal, P.V. Sindhu, Leander Paes and so many. These people have made not only there parents but India feel proud.
How beautifully Sadhguru has narrated, we all want beautiful flowers in our garden but we are not ready to create and provide the right atmosphere for them. We all want rose flowers from a plant that is not a rose plant. What if they don’t come out Rose but different kind of flower? You should not expect rose flowers out of everything just because you like a rose flower. You have fresh life in your home and we don’t know which flower they will be in future. Leave your ideas about how to raise a child, Just cultivate the right atmosphere of joy and responsibility and water them with love and care. If you are a gardener you will never talk about flowers, you will talk about soil, manure, water and sunlight. If you manage these things wonderful flowers will come.
We have come into the world a few years early and are bigger in the body and we know a few survival tricks that don’t mean, we have the privilege to drive the kids in a certain(Me) direction. If you have observed your child closely and compare with yourself, you will understand that they are more capable of creating joy and teach you life. Isn’t it?
If you really want good upbringing for your child, first, please change yourself into a peaceful and loving human being. Create a strong friendship rather than being bossy with them. Please stop moulding them into your mould. Let them be their own shape. Let them dance their own.
We all want our kids should be smarter in everything but we forget to plant the seed of kindness, generosity, friendship which are too important like an education. As for now, how to end with a bang? Well, that’s another blog post for another time.
As I sign off, just remember the famous scientists Albert Einstein who wrote, Everyone is a Genius, but if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing it’s stupid.
There is no comparison between sun and moon , they will shine when it’s their time.
_Shweta Kalyanshetty
Comments
Very well explained Shweta! It’s high time that parents realise their mistake and make changes in their attitude before it is too late…… keep writing n motivating all the parents including us….. waiting for the next one. All d best!!!
True, I hope parents must start accepting this else time will make them realize it.
This is valid for this era and nicely penned. All the best Shweta !
It is so true what you have mentioned. You have just knocked it!!!!!!! Beautifully explained.
Keep Going…….??????
Well written Shweta,go ahead, would love to read more blogs by you.
Well thought out, this is an important point to bring up. Good Going Shweta
Well written
Very impressive thoughs u mentioned here,in society we often see most of parents are aware of problems facing by their child but instead of finding solutions for it they always try push them into rat race. And here I think we all should reconsider terms called equity and equality. Where we all consider the equally treatment for all kind of Young minds. Just imagine the future with all equally nurtured minds where we kill their creativity and program them as robots just to execute the programs. And here we need to think about importance of equity among our society where every mind should get fair chance to grow and express themselves.
Great share Shweta
Nicely explained!! It is a very essential part in parenting ..love and care is all you need to nurture children and bring up best qualities in them.
Nice1 good going
Nice blog Shweta
Nice1…good going
It’s never too late for happy childhood realization is important. Nicely written. Keep going…
Really nice info.
Explained very well.
What max we can do is nurture them.
Each kid is like pizza bread, topping they have to add on their own way and that topping will come from their own creativity.
Lets give them their own space for creativity and joy. Lets give brush in their own hands so they will draw picture of their dream life.
Lets stop rats race.
Thanks Shweta for such nice post.
Well written harsh but truth..